I started dating a man about a year ago with the knowledge of my parents. Our parents were there from the very beginning because we always wanted us to get married. I remember told me when we started dating, “I can’t have kids, I have so many sports injuries!” We talked about this recently and reminded me again that he can't have children. I fell in love with this man, but I always knew that I wanted to have children. The fact that I am alone and seriously thinking about the future is scary now. I don't want to end up not having my own children. I'm looking for advice.
Advice
Hi Suraya,
You are a wonderful person you think a lot, thanks for reaching out and seeking official advice in the first place! Now back to the actual advice. It's easy to see where we want to spend our lives and who we're connected to by what could have happened when we fell in love, but I think he is reasonable to admit he can't have children . This is not an easy answer for everyone, but it is an important question that everyone who wants to get married must decide. I have spent time researching the issue of infertility in Islam and above all I should be asked to speak honestly about the issue of infertility in both men and women when it comes to marriage. The fact that the man you are seriously considering is right and love you
However, this did not change the situation. It's a decision you'll have to make on your own - only you can tell if a blood child means more to you than a future with a guy you think you have strong feelings for. With all of this in mind, it's important to remember that marriage is a decision that will shape the rest of your life. I can't tell you yes or no.
Of course, in this case it is more practical to go to a fertility specialist and find out if infertility can be solved if not
artificial insemination is considered acceptable in Islam, but only if the causative factor comes from the partner. But you should do all of this once you've decided if this person is really the one for you.
