My girlfriend gave me an ultimatum. I marry her, or we break up. I have a few weeks left to make that decision.

 

My girlfriend gave me an ultimatum. I marry her, or we break up. I have a few weeks left to make that decision.

 

 

My gf gave me an ultimatum. I marry her, or we break up. I have a few weeks left to make that decision. Advice Received Title says it pretty much.

 

 

We started dating in december last year. About 4 months ago, she started with the whole "I want to marry you".

 

 

I though it was good to hear that, but then she started pushing on it. Then she gave it a deadline. Then many times we nearly broke up because I couldn't give her an answer there and then.

 

 

And the amount of times she has asked me this has been too much. The deadline never meant anything. She always wanted an answer. She keeps mentioning how I'll be out of her life very soon, how I'll never commit to anything (even though we've been dating exclusively since last year).

 

 

I have come to a conclusion that whatever decision I make, part of me will stay behind, which is the part that will never find out what would happen if I take the other decision.

 

 

I have always felt that it was too soon. Even my parents told me that I shouldn't marry someone because of being afraid that they will leave you.

 

 

What would you do? EDIT: We're both 30. I'll add that she earns more than me. It's not about the money here. She truly shows love for me and is willing to do anything if I'm going through hard times mentally (I've cried in her arms before).

 

 

We pretty much been living together. I do have a room I am renting but I spend pretty much all time in her place after work. She comes from a religion where they have arranged marriage.

 

 

I have to be quiet when she is talking to her family. If I'm at her place, I need to be quiet when she speaks with her friends from her religion too.

 

 

She has told me that she wants to be with someone who isn't from her religion, as in her religion she gives herself to her man, and do everything for him, whilst with me she has that choice. She can be free.

 

 

EDIT x2 : This has blown up. Thank you SO MUCH for all your support and advice. I will give you guys an update when we have come to a decision as a couple. I'm planning to let her know that I need to know that she can be with me without forcing me into marrying